No Judgement…

Romans 14:1-4 (ESV)
As for the one who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not to quarrel over opinions. One person believes he may eat anything, while the weak person eats only vegetables. Let not the one who eats despise the one who abstains, and let not the one who abstains pass judgment on the one who eats, for God has welcomed him. Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another? It is before his own master that he stands or falls. And he will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make him stand.

Once again the Lord is hitting me right where I need it. Paul is calling out those that want to meet with a fellow believer, who is earlier in their walk of faith/sanctification, to encourage them but then using that time to argue about areas of scripture that require deep study and comprehending the arch of God’s Word about something. In a parenting context, Marianne and I call this “Parenting outside the funnel”.

Paul is encouraging us to 1) have patience and 2) to not overly ‘school’ a new believer. He then moves on to differences in conviction; that depending on one’s upbringing, church history, or exposure to biblical principals, may hold on to a looser stance on something. A good example might be the consumption of alcohol. Marianne and I made a decision almost 15 years ago that we did not want our kids growing up seeing us drink and secondly there was a lot of damage that alcohol had done on both sides of family…we just felt that is wasn’t worth it. That being said there is nothing wrong with the believer who drinks in moderation (God’s word is very clear about not drinking to drunkenness).

There are things in my life right now where it is really easy to look at “how I might handle something” versus “how I am seeing someone else handle something”. I find that I have a fleshly tendency to think critically of a person (especially if they are in a spiritual leadership capacity) who is not approaching and handling something as I would…as I would based on what I believe the Lord lays on my heart in biblical conviction. Every believer is running their own race and some at different stages than others. Sometimes the Lord uses us to further a fellow believer’s understanding of God’s word and others, He is just working on that person’s heart in His own timing.

APPLICATION

I need to keep my heart pure. The evil one would like nothing more than to tear down the internal ranks of God’s Kingdom by Christians passing judgement on each other, holding each other to inappropriate bars, or worse, building resentment and bitterness. I must keep my heart positioned (nestled) into the shins of my Savior…keeping my ear close to His mouth and leaning on His discernment, wisdom, and grace. Essentially, spending more time at the foot of the cross.

Love Your Neighbor…

Romans 13:9-10 (ESV)
For the commandments, “You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not covet,” and any other commandment, are summed up in this word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.

These sets of verses in Romans 13 have become really important in Biblical Counseling. What God is telling us through Paul is that, as believers, when we honor and Glorify God through our behavior towards those the Lord has placed in our sphere of influence, we are biblically adhering to what the Lord has called us to do.

In marriage counseling – our closest neighbor is our spouse so this passage becomes even more important and applicable in calling out treatment and actions that don’t fall in line with what Paul calls us to do. The other thing you will notice is that there is no set qualifiers that the neighbor is responsible for in order to earn our love toward them. This can be very hard but it is what God calls us to do. It falls right in line with Romans 12:14-21.

APPLICATION

This passage has to stay on the top of my mind, it needs to be in the forefront of my prayers asking for the Holy Spirit to convict me, and it needs to be the area I am quick to confess and repent when I find I have not followed the instruction. My flesh is inclined to cling to ways I should be treated, or ways I deserve to be spoken to, but I have been bought with a price and vengeance is the Lords. Humility and meekness are two attributes that I want to grow in.