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“She who is truly a widow, left all alone, has set her hope on God and continues in supplications and prayers night and day,” 1 Timothy 5:5 -> me: The last couple of days I have been pressing into chapter 5 here of 1 Timothy.  I usually try to read through a chapter before I dive into deep study.  When I do dive in, God always surprises me with a new understanding of His character, will, purposes, and plan.  Well, today was no different.  These first several verses focus on respecting those around us; older people, people our same age, and widows (real widows – let’s get to that in a moment).  Paul knew that Timothy might need to correct an older believer in their doctrine or theology so he tells Timothy to do such rebuke with respect and treat him no different than he would his own father.  Likewise, to treat people his own age like he would his own brothers and sisters; older women as he would treat his mother.  Then Paul gets to widows where he spends 13 verses talking about them.  The first three define what it means to be a ‘real’ widow, a widow who has no family or relatives to take care of her.  A woman who has lost everything and solely relies on God day and night to answer her prayers as she beseeches Him.  The Lord provides for her through the church and takes the place of her husband for support.  It is pleasing to God that we take care of our parents.  When we take care of our parents we are paying them back for our upbringing and  the sacrifices they made for us.  What’s important is that Paul doesn’t provide a different instruction for children who may feel they have nothing good to pay back; we are to take care of our aging or widowed parents regardless…even if the only reason we do it is please God.  In my case, I have much to pay back; my parents not only made many a sacrifice for my brother and I; they also raised us with all of the knowledge we needed to become godly men.  Thank you mom and dad, for the example you have set and who you have been for me all these years.

“Practice these things, immerse yourself in them, so that all may see your progress. ¹⁶ Keep a close watch on yourself and on the teaching. Persist in this, for by so doing you will save both yourself and your hearers.” 1 Timothy 4:15-16 -> me: Finished up chapter 4 today in 1 Timothy.  These concluding verses were so impactful to me.  What are the things that Paul is referring to that Timothy should practice and immerse himself in? 1) To teach the gospel of HOPE.  2) Set an example for believers in life, in speech, in love, in faith, and in purity. 3) Devoting one’s self to preaching and teaching God’s word…expositionally.  4) To not neglect your gifts.  |  I also like how Paul, once again, talks about Timothy keeping his life and doctrine in check lest he wander off path.  We can never become too comfortable in where God has us.  I must continually keep how I live my life and what I teach from God’s word linked in such a way that someone doesn’t just have to listen to what I might teach but how I live out my teaching.  This hit me today when I thought back to the devotion I recorded for my Life Group on Monday (https://bourlandweb.com/2020/07/19/qtvod-from-gods-to-gift/).  Am I thanking God for everything just as I said in my video?  Am I practicing this concept God revealed to me through His word.  The answer – not as much as I should.  Thank you Lord Jesus for your consistent help in my life that needs you so badly.  Everything I have is a gift from you, including my life that is alive to enjoy them.

“For physical training is of some value (useful for a little), but godliness (spiritual training) is useful and of value in everything and in every way, for it holds promise for the present life and also for the life which is to come.” 1 Timothy 4:8 -> me:  yesterday’s quiet time was on 1st Timothy 4:3-5.  I didn’t send the write up for this because I plan to use it as a devotional that I’m going to send my life group. 🙂 Once that is out I will put it up on our website so that it can be read. In today’s reading, Paul spends time telling Timothy what it looks like to be a good minister of the word. Paul exhorts Timothy in how absolutely important it is that he calls out false teaching and to help brothers and sisters in Christ understand what this looks like. In fact, I read a commentary that says being good minister is like a shepherd who shoves stones under the hooves of their flock as they walk over treacherous ground.  One of the things I love about Canyon Hills is that we follow Paul’s teaching in that the responsibility of teachers is to give positive answers to negative doctrines.  Paul tells Timothy that he has been brought up in the truths of the faith; the words Paul chooses suggest a continual process.  There is no better means of spiritual nourishment than a constant dwelling on the great truths of faith. False teaching is equated here with godless myths and wives’ tales. Old wive’s tales are those superstitions that hold no real truth or consequence…it is wasted time and energy devoting ones life to following them. The words used for ‘having nothing to do with’ are the same as Titus 3:10 and 2 Timothy 2:23. Finally we get to verse 8 where Paul tells us that even physical training has more benefit than believing myths or wive’s tales…but even this can not hold a candle to godliness. The practice and search for godliness reaps benefits for and wide…in both this life and eternal life.

“Now the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will depart from the faith by devoting themselves to deceitful spirits and teachings of demons, through the insincerity of liars whose consciences are seared,” 1 Timothy 4:1-2 -> me: Well, I didn’t get that far into chapter 4 today.  I spent all of my time on the first two verses. 

The first part of 1 Timothy 4 is all about those who leave the faith and follow false teaching.  Paul uses ‘expressly’ or ‘clearly’ because Peter, James, and Paul himself wrote Spirit inspired scripture on this topic and Jesus Himself talked about it in Mark 13:22.  The apostacy Paul talks about here is specified in a two-fold manner.  1) The apostates ‘follow’ deceiving spirits and 2) believe things taught by demons.  Verse 2 talks about teachings coming through hypocritical liars which means that the deceiving spirits and demon find particular allies in these hypocritical liars. 

These false teachers have lost all sense of the wrongness of their actions which is why Paul uses the term meaning ‘cauterized’ to describe the consciences of these men – Ephesians 4:19. 

Here is the META POINT -> The consciences of these false teachers have ceased to warn them of the falseness of their teaching…they have become anaesthetized.  This is scary because the false teaching can be so cleverly woven to sound truthful. 

As a Christian who has his head deep in God’s word, I must stay vigilant to the false doctrine being disseminated around me.  I can see it in people I once respected and I can see it in the leadership of some of the churches surrounding Canyon Hills.

“For those who serve well as deacons gain a good standing for themselves and also great confidence in the faith that is in Christ Jesus.” 1 Timothy 3:13 -> me: Just an update from me today since you have not heard from me for awhile (since the 8th of July).  I have been spending a majority of that time searching God’s word and direction in how we should operate as a church body during a time where there is confusion, fear, doubt, mistrust, and instability.  What I can tell you is that God has been so faithful and merciful to give me several passages that encouraged me and gave me a peace about how to look at all of what is going on.  I shared what God had laid on my heart as part of our elders meeting this last Monday.  This godly group of men has me so humbled.  The love and care they feel for their church flock is overwhelming.  I will be back in the swing of regular quiet times tomorrow and will post my discoveries on what God revealed to me in His word and through His Holy Spirit here on the website in the next couple of days.  I finished the passage in 1 Timothy 3:8-16 on church deacons.  The primary difference I was able to discern was that deacons are impowered to serve the poor and needy.  They are mentioned in Acts 6, Philippians 1:1, and here in 1 Timothy.  Another quality that is mentioned for elders and pastors separate from deacons, is that elders and pastors have the additional role of teaching.  This move to 1 Timothy (and the rest of the pastorals) has been so great!  Thank you for the encouragement Jeff P!

“…not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.” 1 Timothy 3:3 -> me: Today we tackle verse 3.  For this post I am just going to jot in here my stream of conscientiousness. 

1) Not given to drunkenness – For this person, drinking never leads to being drunk.  They never desire to be drunk.  Not only alcohol, they also never allow themselves to be controlled by any substance as a vice.  The Lord alone is their refuge/retreat.

2) Not violent, but GENTLE – Does not lash out irrationally.  This person has an intolerance with any violent method.  They have a spirit that is opposed to the escalation of emotions. GENTLE – A spirit of nurturing and seeks peace in all situations.  A calming presence. 

3) Not quarrelsome – Is not baited by controversy (does not feel like every post on Facebook needs an opinionated response).  Affirms truth, but in love and with grace.  Again, a calming nature that does not put themselves in situations that play into the hands of agitators…let alone never being an agitator themselves. 

4) Not a lover of money – Money is about acquisition of things or power; its about the enablement of self-sufficiency.  This person is not motivated by wealth and is not disposed to the building of storehouses.  What this person obtains, easily slips through their hands when a need arises and that person is always prayerfully looking for the needy places that their money can go to further the glorification of God, not themselves. 

All of the negatives listed in this verse should not only be alien to the Christian spirit; they should be ACTIVELY avoided.  A spirit should be fostered that points to considerateness and patient forbearance.

“Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,” 1 Timothy 3:2 -> me:  Well, I have decided to camp out a bit here in the first 7 verses of 1 Timothy 3.  As an elder candidate (in training) I think it is good if I take the time to let these verses sink in and expound on my understanding of them to my accountability group….YOU! 

Let’s start with ‘Above Reproach’ – A person who is not only of good report but also deservingly so.  This means that even if an action or activity is allowed, if the partaking in that activity can be suspect or interpreted negatively, this individual avoids it or executes it in such a way that their stance and intent is clear.  This also means that the private version of this person matches the public version.  It means that the uprightness of the individual permeates into and through their character; not for pleasing men, but to be who God desires them to be in their conversion and grafting into God’s family and inheritance. 

‘Husband of one wife’ – There is some disagreement on what this is pointing at 1) One woman through one marriage – that a person who has been married twice to 2 different women would be disqualified.  2) That polygamy is forbidden in the Christian church and men of monogamous marriages only.  I side with the later and here is why: The Greek word used here is gune (long e) which is used for woman, wife, or even ‘my lady’.  However, when the word for husband precedes it, it appears to refer to ‘wife’ specifically.  So, from my perspective and ‘light’ study, Paul likely means ‘wife’ and not the other definition ‘woman’; which brings in the one wife in a marriage. 

‘Temperate, Self-Control, and Respectable’ – These belong together because they are all closely related -> They describe an orderly life.  Temperate is only used in the Pastorals and denotes an even approach to all situations. Doesn’t get riled up easily and is not complacent.  Self-Control also means prudent and of sound mind.  This person is not easily swayed back and forth in their thinking.  They have a gauged approach to problem solving and maintain a healthy internal dialog that keeps them upright in their thinking.  Respectable also means ‘proper’.  This attribute brings a character that is dignified.  A perception managed by the bearer that supports the aspect of being above reproach. 

‘Hospitable’ – Someone who not only accepts and takes in all, but also  fights for the feeling of all to be welcomed and at home in their church, in the overseer’s home, or in their sphere. 

Finally, ‘Able to Teach’ – I would go further to say that an overseer must be so acquainted with the word of God that they can instruct and re-align the flock.  This really comes down to Guarding, Guiding, and Growing the church body.

“He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?” 1 Timothy 3:4-5 -> me: Today’s reading was 1 Timothy 3:1-7 [Paul’s instruction on the character of an Overseer (Pastor, Elder, Minister, etc.)]. 

The first thing Paul says is that ‘If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task’ (vs. 1).  When Marianne and I were called on by our Pastor to pray about entering into the church’s eldership candidate program, I was very humbled and spent a lot of time reading all I could about Biblical Eldership.  I didn’t necessarily ‘desire’ to be a church elder but what I did desire was to serve my Creator with all of my heart, mind, soul, and strength; to glorify Him.  Here are my thoughts on this ‘desire’: The desire comes from a call.  The desire is pure in the action of being a servant to the Lord; only wishing to be used by God (as an apparatus) to Guide, Guard, and Grow the flock.  Therefore, glorifying God in every action, intent, and motivation.  There is no possible way of doing this effectively without embracing God’s strength and wisdom that only He can give; embracing through dwelling on God’s word day and night and seeking His will and purposes for His church. 

So, if you overcome that hurdle, there is another big one -> A man who cannot govern his children graciously and with good discipline, is no man for government in the church.  Potential in a greater sphere can be indicated only by a similar skill in a lesser sphere.  This is just as important today as it was in Paul’s day.  These words do not apply to just overseers; they apply to all professing Christians.  More simply stated: Lack of proper management at home-life disqualifies a person from leadership in the church.  Paul uses the same Greek verb for fathers ruling their children (prohistemi) that he used later for elders ruling the church -> 1 Timothy 5:7, 1 Thessalonians 5:12, and Romans 12:8.

“I desire then that in every place the men should pray, lifting holy hands without anger or quarreling; likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.” 1 Timothy 2:8-10 -> me: Today my reading was 1 Timothy 2:8-15.  For some people, this passage is very hard to read as it goes against everything our society and culture is trying to tell us right now.  For Timothy this part of Paul’s letter spoke right to the heart of what he was dealing with in Ephesus.  For us, in 2020, it has relevance as well.  Let me focus on what the Lord has been revealing to me as I have pondered this passage over the last couple of days.  The nitty gritty of what Paul is getting at is distractions.  Distractions from the power of the gospel and the power of the Christian witness to not only those inside the church but outside as well.  Paul starts out this section with “I desire then that in every place the men should pray, lifting holy hands without anger or quarreling”.  Then he says a very important word -> ‘likewise’.  It is about focus (lowering the distractions around us) so that we can give all of our attention to the only One that matters – our Father in heaven through our Lord Jesus Christ.  Men are to lift holy hands without anger or quarreling and women are to not be distracted by focusing on their own appearance.  I also feel that another phrase from Paul is super important about his direction to women that we can all take away – “with modesty and self-control…with what is proper for women who profess godliness”.  What is proper for women who profess godliness?  It is the intentions of focus of the new creature they have become in the Lord.  What is proper becomes clear when we understand the role we have here on earth in light of a gospel that must get out before the end of the age comes.  Proper becomes clear when we throw away our wants and desires of the fleeting world in order to focus on the example and hope that is the Lord Jesus Christ.  Uber point -> Don’t be distraction (to yourself or others) in your worship of the One Who gave Himself for you, the One Who purchased you with the ultimate price.